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Back, but not quite home.

Wednesday, October 24th, 2007

We left NY at about 9:30 last night and by 2:30am we were back here.¬† I did wind up falling asleep in the car for the last hour of the trip but that’s out of character for me, so it caught me off guard.¬† I don’t typically fall asleep in cars but I guess with Bella all cozy on my lap so she could look out the window, plus the both of us being wrapped up in my jacket just to get warm – it was bound to happen at some point.

The trip up was OK, we walked into an uncomfortable situation between my father and sister that I’d rather not get into.¬† Sunday was a “down” day, I headed over to my aunts to spend some time with her and on Monday my father and I headed to the bank so I could collect the loan.¬† Seeing a check with that many zero’s was definitely a nice birthday gift.¬† With the interest rate I’m going to pay back about $4,000 on top of the loan itself but since the course of the loan is 60 months, that really won’t matter too much.

So once that was taken care of we headed back to the house and relaxed until about 7 when my aunt called us and we all headed out to dinner at Bertucci’s for my birthday, Sean treated everyone to dinner which looked like a big selling point to my father, so I have to say that worked out nicely.¬† I didn’t “clean up” the way I have in the past but more than enough money to get us back home and me to purchase a few things from the salon my grandmother owns.¬† I also picked up a new purse, Gucci has that kind of a hold on me.¬† And the Dolce & Gabbana sun glasses to replace my now defunct Chanels make me more than content.

We came back here to find house guests, and since it’s raining we’ve still got our suitcases in the car.¬† Sean should be getting in touch with his brother soon about this upcoming weekend.¬† Hopefully once things calm down a bit they’ll be easier to deal with when we’re settled into our new place.¬† I really don’t care much about anything anymore, so being in this funk my only real concern is moving out and just starting a new life.¬† Work means crap to me, people have always meant shit to me, and getting out of a very uncomfortable living situation is a big goal for me right now.

Packing up, heading out.

Saturday, October 20th, 2007

I’m waiting on my clothes to finish drying so I can start packing.¬† Sean and I are leaving tomorrow afternoon and it’s already about 2am as is so who knows how much longer I’ll be awake.¬† I’m kind of antsy, I get to see a lot of family members over the course of the weekend.¬† Monday is my birthday so we’re all going out to dinner, Bertucci’s YUM.¬† My aunt is coming with us, it’ll be nice to see her as well.¬† On Tuesday I’m getting my hair done, then that afternoon we’re heading back down here to start the moving process.¬† We may start packing up a few things and bring them out with us just so we’re prepared, but for the most part we’re just concerned with getting out there and buying the property anyway.¬† Lets just hope this goes smoothly.

Vacations, Model Homes, Mortgages OH MY!

Wednesday, October 17th, 2007

The ManhattanKaren is going away on Friday night to head up to Pennsylvania with her sister. Her sister is in the process of moving down here and she’s already chosen the chunk of land that she’s interested in but now she needs to pick out a model home to put on it. She’s going through Ritz-Craft, I’ve heard some mixed reviews on them though. I personally find Palm Harbor homes to be the most appealing. However, Ritz-Craft has a model called “Manhattan” that’s 3547 square feet and absolutely GORGEOUS.¬† I uploaded it because it’s worth sharing.¬† This is the computer generated version, after getting in touch with Ritz-Craft I found out that this model is in the $150,000 range.¬† Which isn’t bad, but you’re better off owning you’re own land in order to purchase it so now we’re looking at another estimated $20,000.¬† I would personally put the house up in Ohio considering I’ve found some decent land out there, but who knows if I could get a mortgage on it.¬† Wishful thinking, that’s for sure.

So she’s leaving on Friday, we’ll be graced with Princess for about 13 hours or so and then we’re heading up to New York on Saturday.¬† So I’ll throw down some extra wee-wee pads and a big bowl of food, keep the fan on with the TV and the rest is cake.¬† She’s fine being left alone over night, Karen should be back within 24 hours of us leaving anyway so it’s not like the dog is going to starve to death.¬† She never plays with toys, she tends to sleep all day so she’ll probably have no idea as to what’s going on anyway.¬† In many ways, Princess is like having a cat.¬† Put the food down and leave her alone until she’s showing some kind of signs towards wanting affection.

I’m bringing Bella up to NY with me.¬† I figure that since we’ll be in Ohio for five days or so without her, leaving her two weekends in a row really isn’t a great idea.¬† Besides, knowing that Karen is going away the same weekend I don’t want her to be in the house alone either.¬† So on Friday, Sean and I are going to make a quick Walmart run and I’ll load up on food and what not for her to get through the weekend.¬† Then next week we’ll make another trip before we leave to load up on some things for while we’re gone.

Time Capsules

Monday, October 15th, 2007

PPPI just came across something pretty cool. Have any of you ever taken a time capsule and buried something in the back yard? I remember doing it at my grandmothers house when I was about 8 years old. I think there’s a doll and some random little toys in there that I felt I could do without. Knowing that my grandmothers house is going to be in the family for many decades, I figure it’s still save to have it back there. My sister and I both wrote little letters explaining where we’re going to be when we finally open it up. It was a big project that my grandmother did with us. She knew that she’d be passing away soon so having some place in the back yard that was just between the three of us was important to her. We didn’t understand it back then but now I can truly say that I understand why she had us do that. Based on a conversation I’ve had with family, my aunt has informed me that when she passes away I’m considered next of kin and will be almost an instant owner of the house. So while this may be a certain number of years down the road, I’m honestly happy that I’m going to have real estate on Long Island that will be more valuable to me then any amount of money could buy. How could you not love having a 1800 sqft home on an acre of property? Seriously now. So I know that I can take my kids and dig it up in the future, then replant our own. I think that’s something I would seriously turn into a family tradition, I know that for sure.

PPPToday I came across something pretty interesting as well. It’s called the Virtual Time Capsule. You can take photos, videos and even text to have them stored on a password protected website where the creators promise to keep the site up for the next hundred years or so. It seems like a pretty cool idea, and even after that it proves how technology has really come a long way. The thing for me, even if I do have another 60 years left in me, by this time next year I’ll have forgotten that I even HAVE the site, lol. But, if you are interested, head on over to http://www.the100yearwebsite.com/, maybe you have a better memory than I do.

Now things are rolling…

Monday, October 15th, 2007

The loan information still hasn’t gotten here but at least I now have a reason as to why.¬† The paperwork wasn’t even printed out until the 11th, and being as it’s the 15th I should expect to see it sometime over the course of the next few days.¬† Sean and I are heading up to NY this weekend so I can head to the branch up there with my father on Monday and by Tuesday the money will be available in my bank account.

After being redirected four times talking to Corporate, I was directed to a man who told me that I don’t even have to wait for the letter, I could have gone to the bank the second I was given the approval.¬† Knowing that I’ve waited two weeks to see some kind of silver lining, this was a bitter sweet moment for me.¬† So I called my father and let him know that we’ll be up there this weekend and I know that Sean, My Father and I are going out to dinner for my birthday on Monday evening.¬† My sister may tag along but we’re going to The Outback so who knows if she’ll find something on the menu there.¬† The certified check that I’m getting from HSBC will travel with me to WAMU, I’ll deposit the money and then by Tuesday I’ll be rolling in it.

Sean and I will then book a room in Ohio for possibly a one to two night stay until we can have the deed signed over to us and then we’ll stay there until the major modifications have been completed.¬† We’ll probably do some minor shopping so we can begin furnishing the place, I know from the get go that a few kitchen based items are important to us.¬† I’d like to at least have some pots and pans in the house, as well as plates so that we’re not eating out every night until we have the rest of our things out there.¬† We’ll get the cable reactivated, get the electric and everything else switched over into our name and then go from there.

It’s going to be a rough couple of weeks but that’s OK by us, we know that once all of the chaos has ended, we’ll be home owners and damn happy about it.¬† The loan is only going to be about $150 a month as far as paying it back is concerned.¬† I figure if we can spare about $300 we’ll be able to pay it back quicker.¬† It’s approved for 15.9%, which is unfortunate but HSBC is known for higher rates and that’s just fine for me.

While we wanted to get out there before Halloween, moving in around the date is just as good for us.¬† Sean wants to go to some haunted house so I figure while we’re out there we can do that.¬† We’ll bring a few extra things with us when we go out there the first time, this way we’ll have some things to move in with that don’t need to be loaded on to the truck that his brother is driving down here for us.¬† Maybe the place will start looking like a home a lot sooner than we’d originally thought – who knows.

In any event, I guess I should get my ass in gear on some work, lord knows when I’ll have this kind of downtime over the course of the next few weeks.

Senior Cell Phones

Thursday, October 11th, 2007

PPPWhile I hate to say it, I know that my father is officially a Senior Citizen. He’s pushing 60 and while he may feel old, he truly is young at heart. With age comes it’s downside though, he’s slowly beginning to lose his eye sight. He’s had to wear reading glasses for the last 10 years or so but now he’s going to have to start using them for every day driving, so that has him a little bit annoyed.

He didn’t grow up with fancy technology the way today’s generation is, so him getting a cell phone was a pretty big deal to him. He had trouble seeing the buttons on the phone because even I’ll admit that in some cases they’re a little bit too small. He has very thick hands, but that’s a trait on that side of the family, all the men do. Today I found out that they actually have an option for a Senior Cell Phone service. He just renewed his contract with Verizon so I highly doubt that he’d be interested in it, but they seem to have some pretty decent options available. Not only do you get bigger buttons, you also have brighter screens and easier to hear ring tones for those losing their hearing as well.

I went looking through their services and they have pretty easy to to use cell phones that can be used as your standard cellphone or an emergency cellular to keep around the house. They’re pay as you go plans, but I’m sure somewhere down the road there will be enough of a backing for a standard monthly service. I look at it this way though, there’s more of a benefit to having a prepaid service to a monthly service if you’re only using the phone for emergencies. I hardly ever use my phone, hence the reason for having a prepaid. I see no point in keeping a phone for more than $10 a month if there’s no point in it, again this is just me. My father hardly ever uses the phone at all and now he’s spending about $40 a month with Verizon. I think switching over to jitterbug.com will actually help him out, especially when it comes to saving money. I’ll have to let him know about it when his plan is up for renewal in 2009.

I’m having trouble waiting for this one…

Wednesday, October 3rd, 2007

It’s been a pretty long day.¬† I woke up a lot later than I intended to but I’ve managed to put in a solid six hours of work so far, so I assume that counts for something.¬† Monthly earnings, thus far, have me in the $300 range so if I can keep up with it I’ll have another $3,000 month – before any design work kicks in for me.¬† I’ve been putting in some bids on GAF to make up for the slack of last month.¬† I went through a few weeks where I just wasn’t doing too well so hopefully this will resolve itself, financially, over the course of the next few days.¬† I’m still not feeling very well but I want to assume this is due to the weather change.¬† I don’t feel a cold coming on, but my body kind of feels as though it’s eventually going to crap out on me.¬† I have antibiotics and aspirin on hand in case something big blows up.¬† Stress may be the cause of it, lord knows how bad my back has been acting up because of it.

We’re leaving for New York on Friday around 6.¬† If we can avoid any major traffic we should be there by 11 (midnight at the latest) so I can take a much needed nap and then head out to the bank on Saturday morning with my father.¬† I’m have to call him tomorrow to verify plans, I’m just patiently waiting for the HSBC letter to show up for me.¬† If it’s not here by Friday – I don’t know what I’m going to do.¬† 7-10 days takes a lot longer when you’re anticipating something so heavily.

I figure on Sunday I’ll go to Breakfast with my father since we’re leaving on Sunday night.¬† Originally we were going to go to dinner but we have to get back down here before Monday morning so there really isn’t much of a choice there.

I’ll be booking the room for A.C. on Saturday as well.¬† I figure if I’m up there the same weekend as my father we can at least have dinner together there.¬† I have a few comps for buffets in almost all of the hotels so I’m sure something will work out.¬† Sean has one, I have one and my father has one but each comp covers two people.¬† So whoever winds up tagging along is covered – basically.

In any event, I could put in another four hours – maybe it’ll keep my mind off things.

Anticipating the future

Thursday, September 27th, 2007

I’m waiting to hear from HSBC in regards to the loan.¬† It’s a pretty substantial amount of money so I want to assume it’s going to take a few days before I hear anything.¬† As of right now we have everything planned out.¬† Sean’s credit cards will be paid off within 24-hours of the check clearing, a trip to Ohio will be quickly planned and after a trip north to purchase a new car – we’ll be heading out to look into our available options.¬† My bookmarks list has grown quite a bit over the last few days and based on that list alone, about $2,000 is going straight to furnishing the place.¬† That doesn’t seem like a lot but I’m not only a smart shopper, I’m a cheap one too.

I don’t need a lot of useless items to throw around in the house, we have more than enough coming with us in order to fill the house up.¬† The larger purchases include a new TV, a vacuum and probably new flooring depending on how old the carpet is in this place.¬† The list is mainly limited to Best Buy, Walmart, Kmart and Target.¬† Depending on the condition of the couch – a trip to IKEA or any store in the area is going to be another “big” purchase for us, but nothing that will break the budget.¬† We know from the get-go that we’ll be paying taxes on the loan so that’s really not a big deal.¬† I just have the list all taken care of, now it’s just getting the money that’s holding us back.¬† It’s not easy to get tens of thousands of dollars thrown into your bank account over night, and I’m not exactly working for a corporation where I can take out an advance on my salary in order to make that happen so being as the only option is a loan – I want to think I made the right choice.¬† I just checked my email and saw that a notification for me is going to show up within the next 7-10 days.

Things on the family front seem OK.¬† My grandfather is undergoing his cancer treatment, my aunt seems to be recovering nicely from her treatment and knowing that it’s in the family on both sides, it’s had me in an “ehh…” kind of a mood for the past few weeks.¬† My grandmother (father’s side) died when I was about 8 years old of lung, bone and breast cancer it kind of just hit her breast and shifted its way into every other organ.¬† I haven’t gotten a mammogram in years and now it’s just starting to hit me, hopefully with this loan some much-needed self-insurance is going to come through as well.¬† From the tooth issues to the fact that I’m a high risk for cancer, my attention span has been close to ‘shit’ lately.

I called up the groomer this afternoon, she’s scheduled for an appointment on Friday morning.¬† I figure getting her shaved now will give her enough time to have a decent amount of hair on her before Winter.¬† From there I can keep her trimmed up until Spring.¬† I don’t really like the idea of going six months and may wind up doing it around Christmas and keeping a jacket on her, but for now I’m itching to get it done because she had a brutally hot summer to deal with and I felt horrible that I couldn’t spare the funds, or the time, to get her done.¬† I kept her trimmed up by myself but there’s just a lot of hair on her.¬† I don’t know how the larger dogs that are covered in thick long hair can be even remotely comfortable in the heat.¬† She’s only like 17 pounds and has thin hair and can barely stand it.¬† She plops out next to the AC vent on the floor in the kitchen and rolling around on ice-cubes are her only real relief.¬† Meanwhile, Sean is always freezing in the bedroom and I don’t think I’ve ever seen a more content dog when she’s in here sprawled out on a nice cool bed…heh.

It’s knocking on 4:30, and knowing I need to crash by midnight tomorrow – I’m going to take a nap and then wake up to get some work done.¬† This should be fun.

Where are all the jobs?

Thursday, July 26th, 2007

Karen is in the process of looking for a new job. The company she currently works with is absolutely horrible because it’s being run by someone who saw a price tag and not the actual business behind it. They’re lucky if bills are paid on time and it’s been noted on more than one occasion that they’re just sneaking by on getting the payroll taken care of. So naturally she’s tapped into every possible site on the internet looking for work. Monster, CareerBuilder and even CraigsList haven’t really brought up anything for her. I pushed her in the direction of looking for corporate finance jobs because that’s probably going to be the best thing for her. She’s digging through their site at the moment, I just hope she’s able to come up with something.

It’s FinancialConsultantRecruiters.com, they’re a executive search firm that has finance jobs and their professional recruiters/consultants have executive and entry level jobs in the corporate finance field available now. I just hope she’s able to come up with something because she’s had no luck looking anywhere else.

:: crosses fingers ::

Planning a party?

Sunday, July 22nd, 2007

I don’t know about you but something I really enjoy is planning a party for friends/family members. If I happened to be in New York for the past couple of months I would have probably had a hand in planning a shower for my friend who is about a month away from giving birth. It’s her first child and she’s so happy about being a mother that the glow on her face could light up a room.

She’s having a girl so I’ve kind of been poking around on sites like partypail.com looking for extra cute and extra girlie baby shower decorations. I just wish that I could actually give her the party but our friend seems to be handling everything. Kim doesn’t know about the party itself, but thank god for AIM or I wouldn’t know anything going on with these people anymore! I’ve always been a fan of cute little ducks for some reason so when I came across this Baby Duckie Baby Shower theme I almost instantly bookmarked it, I sent it over to Jamie first – naturally. She fell over too heh.

Still kind of ‘blah’.

Saturday, July 21st, 2007

I’m still not feeling that great in regards to the family related issues but at the same time it is my anniversary I should at least get off my ass and enjoy the day with my fiance, you know?

Last night, before going to sleep, we took a quick trip to Super Fresh and picked up a few items for dinner tonight. I told him that since his gifts never got here that I’d make him dinner for our anniversary so he could pick anything he wants. He jokingly said that he wanted duck but there was no way in hell I was cooking one of those. He then went on to say chicken fried chicken with the white gravy the way they make it at Cracker Barrel and I said “Sure, no problem”. I picked up some chicken, potatoes and other veggies so that there’s at least something on the side of the breaded chicken. I don’t deep fry anything, I refuse to, so I’ll throw some plain breadcrumbs on the chicken and pop them in the oven in a little while. The problem now is that he wants mashed potatoes and those take a while to boil, so I’m going to hop on that now and hopefully we’ll be eating dinner by 9pm :sigh:

It’s a boy!

Saturday, July 21st, 2007

A completely useless resource that I hate the most in the world is AIM Mail, something my sister is fully aware of, but she still insists on sending messages through that address just because she can’t ‘remember’ my email address. It took me a few days longer than I would have liked but I received some pictures that I’ve been waiting on for a while now.

My aunt has been in the hospital for the past month due to complications with her pregnancy. Around her 7th month the baby decided that he wanted out, and badly at that. For the past month she has been in the hospital and after 3 blood transfusions due to hemmraging, they finally decided that an emergency c-section was more than necessary. A very difficult 6.5lb baby boy finally made his appearance.

This is my aunts second child but in actuality I believe it’s her fourth. She suffered two miscarriages before she had her daughter and even that was a difficult pregnancy. She’s been on bed rest with this pregnancy for quite some time now but to hear my sister telling me that she’s been in the hospital for the last month having serious complications is nothing more than heart wrenching.

I’m not sure when I’m actually going to meet my new cousin. I’m not going to say Christmas because I know for sure that I won’t be traveling up there on Christmas day and I’m positive that by the time I do get up there, everyone will be off doing their own thing. Thing is, even if I was actually in New York I doubt I’d ever see anyone anyway based on work schedules and the fact that no one really includes anyone on anything these days, for some reason.

Based on the pictures I’ll say he’s a cute kid but at the same time I was looking at the people surrounding the baby. My aunt looks horrible but a month in the hospital will do that to you I guess. My grandmother has lost quite a bit of weight since I last saw her and my grandfather looked very proud to have his 7th grandchild but at the same time this strange feeling came over me knowing that while he may be very happy about this grandchild, he’s also battling cancer at the same time.

This kind of sucks because all of these emotions are hitting me on my anniversary with Sean. I want to be happy right now, I’m with the man I intend to spend the rest of my life with but the family shit is really just hitting me really hard.

Wiping debt clean…

Monday, June 25th, 2007

I recently found out that my father had to take out a loan just to take care of his credit card debt. He had about 3 cards and after coming across a low interest credit card he transferred all three cards to one, began payments and then found himself taking out a loan just so he could pay it all off on one shot. Naturally I wouldn’t recommend doing this unless you absolutely have to but thanks to my mother’s love for QVC and everything HOME SHOPPING, he’s spent the last 10 years paying off close to $40,000 in credit card debts. He’s now debt free, in regards to his cards, and working on paying back the loan that he took out. By transferring all of his funds to a low-interest credit card, he actually found out that his credit score had improved. He’s now got a credit score above 760 and couldn’t be happier. His interest rates dropped, his financial standings, as a whole, have improved and he just seems like a happier person in general.

I learned a lot about credit cards from him, which is why I don’t see myself getting one anytime soon. Unless I need one for absolute emergencies then there’s really no point in spending money that I just don’t have. I understand that everyone’s situation is different and I’m, by no means, saying that you’re a complete moron if you’re depending on other’s money in order to get through daily life. However, I do strongly believe that if you can maintain a proper bank account, you won’t need to worry about going to an outside source for funding.

Accepting it still doesn’t make me happy

Monday, June 25th, 2007

For many years now, my grandmother has been having some serious trouble with her legs. So much so that she finds going up and down the stairs, let alone walking in general, to be nothing more than excruciating pain. A few months ago my aunt decided to call a company that designs custom stairlifts for all kinds of homes. She has one that leads to the basement so it’s easier for her to get her laundry done. My grandfather helps out as much as he can but at the moment he’s not only dealing with prostate cancer but he’s had horrible knees for as long as I can remember. They both use the stairlifts on almost a daily basis just so they can keep the house maintained. I know relatives go over to help out but when you’re closest form of help is a phone call and about 15 minutes away, anything can happen.

When it comes to the main floor of the house she alternates between her cane and her wheelchair. She’s completely capable of walking around, it’s just that if she does it too long she winds up in quite a bit of pain. Her frustration now-a-days is the fact that she’s now also dealing with arthritis. For many years she’s knitted, sewed and done everything you would expect an Italian grandmother to do. Now she’s unable to hold the needles, or even thread a spool onto her sewing machine in order to get anything accomplished, yet again she’s looked towards outside help.

Her leg problems started many years ago, she’s always had bad ankles and even with surgery to attempt to fix her problems, it only made them worse. The surgeon managed to cut into a nerve that has destroyed all possibility for a full recovery. She’s dealing with a lawsuit on top of the fact that she’s worse now than she’s ever been before, and it ticks me off to no end that this doctor claims he had nothing to do with it.

My grandfather just recently came to find out that he has prostate cancer. His prostate is so enlarged that they can’t even really begin proper cancer treatment on him. They’re giving him some kind of medication to shrink his prostate and then they’re going to work on the kemo and everything else that he would need in order to get himself all ‘fixed up’ as he puts it. Either way I know he’s in a lot of pain, who knows how much more he’ll be able to stand.

The topic of my grandparents is slowly taking it’s toll on me. I realize that they’re not going to be around for much longer and while they have all the help in the world, that still doesn’t cut down the chance that one or both of them may no longer be with us tomorrow.

A rather uncomfortable conversation

Sunday, June 24th, 2007

I have no doubt in my mind that this is a topic that most people dread to even think about but what some people don’t realize is the importance behind having some kind of a life insurance policy. It doesn’t matter how young or old you are, anything could happen to you between right now and tomorrow that is 100% life changing. A few years back I looked into Affordable Life Insurance Quotes and did manage to get myself onto a plan where I pay a small amount of money each month to buy into my current $30,000 plan, naturally over the years this number will go up but I also know for sure that if something where to, god forbid, happen to me I know that my family is taken care of. Even if it’s only enough to cover funeral expenses, pay off an outstanding balance and cover any hospital fees – I know that nothing is going to be taken out of their own pockets for this.

My father has a life insurance policy, somewhere in the $80,000 range. He has one out on both my sister and myself. He’s also fully paid for his entire funeral, a conversation that I did not wish to have with the man considering we were at the breakfast table. This is a conversation that could at least have waited a few more hours so I didn’t dwell on it for the entire day, most parents don’t seem to understand that concept. His theory, however, “It doesn’t matter how or when I die, I don’t care what kind of a box I’m in or where I’m buried. Don’t say ‘he would have liked that’, I’m dead – I don’t care what things look like!” I was taken back by this, but I can understand where he’s coming from. Some people treat funerals as though they were weddings where they go crazy with flowers, music, dressing things up that don’t really need any dressing up. My father, being so set in his ways, would be happy in a pine box in the back yard with a few chairs setup. Naturally this isn’t how it’s going to happen but again – he’s dead, he doesn’t care anyway. God I hated that conversation with him.

But anyway, back to my original point. Having a life insurance policy could be good for all of those involved. It shows that you’re fully accepting the fact that you’re moving on and not leaving excess weight on the shoulders of your loved-ones after you pass on. My father claims he did it to prove that he can and will do anything for his girls, and considering I’ve taken a policy out on myself, as well, I know that I’m also going to be doing it for my loved ones.

Something’s just not right…

Saturday, June 23rd, 2007

I woke up today with the feeling of “Some thing’s just not right.” I assumed this was because I’d slept too late again and Sean (yet again) failed to wake me at a reasonable time. I don’t even hear the alarm going off sometimes so having the extra help is always a valuable resource for me. So I woke up and did the dishes quick, had my morning cig and then hung out in the living room for a little while. I felt as though I had no reason to go through email today considering I’ve responded to everything before I’d gone to sleep last night. My spam box is empty, my client folders are empty – there’s nothing left for me to do so I’m just going to sit and relax for a change.

A little while later Karen came home from the beach, I had just started to doze on the couch when I heard her pull up. Princess heard her as well so I was basically woken up by her excessive barking. I’m not sure why I’m as tired as I’ve been lately but again, this stems back to my “just not feeling right” state of mind the last couple of days.

After a quick clean-out of a spill in the fridge I threw a meatloaf in the crockpot for the dogs and the remaining meat went towards dinner tonight. I threw some bugers on the grill and the whole time – yet again – my stomach was just acting up. Sean came out to join us for dinner (he claimed he wasn’t feeling well so he just went to bed without eating anything). About 10 minutes later he appeared and announced that my father had called earlier this afternoon and left a message for me to call him back. My father NEVER leaves a message, he knows there’s caller ID and eventually he’ll get a call back. In order for him to actually leave a message, naturally I can expect the worse.

So after dinner I went outside with the phone and called the house, my sister answered noting that he was in Jersey already and that I should try his cell. After talking to her for a few moments I found out that my Aunt isn’t doing too well with her pregnancy…my other aunt is having trouble getting around after her surgery (thyroid cancer), my grandfather is driving everyone nuts because he’s been lingering around the store all day (prostate cancer) since he can’t work at the moment and my grandmother is basically being my grandmother – the women will never change.

After a quick trip to the bathroom I called my father to find out that my Aunt Teresa had passed away on Thursday. The feeling in the pit of my stomach has now subsided since it’s no longer connected to the “What could it possibly be?” kind of feelings. She was in her late 80’s in the advanced stages of dementia and so many other factors that aided in her final days. They say that she’d gone to sleep peacefully and just never woke up. She was to a point where she literally had no idea who you were, even if you were her own children. Everyone is stating that it couldn’t have come at a better time, she fought for as long as she needed to, she’s in a better place now – basically anything you can say to lighten the situation that your mother was suffering and all you cared about was what ever is written in the will.

They tossed this woman from senior home to senior home just because they didn’t feel like dealing with her. They know based on previous readings of her entire estate that she’s worth around 20+ million dollars. All her kids wanted was for her to die so they could get the cash. I swear if I ever pulled something like that with my father – he’d haunt the living hell out of me. What they’ll be unhappy to know – however – is that they aren’t getting a DIME all the money has been left to her 18 grandchildren. I know you’re thinking “Woah, 18 is A LOT” she had six children, one of which was gay and the rest of them reproduced obviously more than one time. I believe one of her eldest daughters has 6-7 children, two of which are in college.

All of her children are very well taken care of by their husbands. There are nothing but doctors and lawyers in that family so leaving the money towards the grandchildren is the natural thing to do, especially considering how proud of a grandmother she really was. It’s just a shame that by the end…she didn’t know who any of these people were.